The DYNAMIC Art Of Communicating EFFECTIVELY With Men
(And it's not "Nagging")?
Did you know that 80% of the reason a relationship succeeds or fails is a result of the subtle "indirect" things you and a man communicate to each other?
The truth is that many women don't even know what the most important parts of this "indirect" communication are, and how it all works.
To make sure you stay close and deeply connected with the man in your life through even in the toughest of times, you need to master the skill of what I call "Emotional Awareness."Learn how this has the power to save or destroy your relationship right here where I explain the big stuff you need to know about:
OK, now a quick quiz for you.
Do you know what the single MOST IMPORTANT SKILL to have in a relationship with a man is?
The one skill that underlies EVERYTHING, and is proven to be the ultimate "make it or break it" part of a long term relationship or marriage?
Take a moment to think about what this one absolutely critical skill is.
THINKING.....
Figure it out yet?
Is it the skill of knowing how to keep a fulfilling life of your own while in a serious relationship?
No, it is not.
Is the skill taking responsibility for your own happiness first?
No, not that either.
Or is it keeping the passion alive and making sure he's "sexually satisfied" with you so that he wants to stay with you and only you?The answer is that the most crucial skill is none of these things.
The single most important thing you'll ever need to know if you want to have a LASTING and SECURE RELATIONSHIP with a man is...
The skill of knowing how to CONNECT and COMMUNICATE with a man "Emotionally and Psychologically".And notice I said "... with a MAN".
Now, it might sound simple, but don't be fooled here and make the mistake most women make thinking they know what they're doing when it comes to how men think about talking and sharing in a relationship with a woman...See... most women believe that they are great communicators because they can SHARE HOW THEY FEEL, and do so often. But does this get them the kind of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING that they want from the one man they want it with?
For an overwhelming majority of women, the answer is NO, it doesn't.
But if you think about it, the numbers don't add up here. Here's what I mean...
THE ART OF COMMUNICATING EFFECTIVELY...WITH MEN
If you're like most women, and you're a great communicator and like to talk and share, then it makes sense that you should have an amazing level of communication going on in your relationships, right?
And you probably do... but mostly with THE WOMEN in your life. (Hint, hint.........Think about it...........Has the penny dropped yet)
I mean, doesn't great communication mean that you're able to create the SITUATION or the "environment" where both parties can talk, listen, understand each other, and share?
That's what being a great communicator is all about - being the one to "facilitate" understanding and sharing..............And LISTENING!But then why is it that so many women who are great communicators seem to be the ones who have UNSATISFYING and FRUSTRATING relationships that have little or no TWO-WAY COMMUNICATION with the man in their lives?
Following me here?
Something is off.
Here's what I know with working over the years with women and helping them create deep "Intimate" relationships with men...
Women who don't understand how to genuinely connect with and understand men are always chalking up the poor level of communication to THE MAN in their life - they see it all as a function of how he has STOPPED TALKING AND SHARING with them. Now, this is at least partly true - it's a two- way street, and a man is equally responsible for keeping a relationship going strong.
But here's WHAT REALLY MATTERS...
What does this situation where a man shuts off mean if you really are a great communicator?
It means that you have an opportunity to use your knowledge and SKILLS to quickly "facilitate" a new kind of conversation that will "re-engage" a man and immediately open the doors of LISTENING and UNDERSTANDING back up between you both.IT ONLY TAKES ONE TO CREATE POSITIVE CHANGE
The truth is, IT IS POSSIBLE to create near INSTANT CHANGE if you know how to communicate and connect with someone in the right way. And when you start to learn how all this works, and how to quickly and easily connect with anyone on a deep level at any time, something magical starts to happen for you...
You start to harness the power of creating a strong "connection" between you and a man in each critical moment in your relationship...And what's even better, you start to enjoy the benefits of how a deep level of connection can immediately transform everything about how you are with each other. In other words, that strong and powerful "connection" that you build actually safeguards you when the bad times and the tough times come and go.And It's AMAZING when you can experience this and feel the joy, the fulfillment, and the SECURITY and CERTAINTY that it brings.
Now...
Since we've touched on all this about the skill of creating a deep level of connection through communication, I'd like to ask you...
Do you have this CRITICAL SKILL right now?
Can you create the change and the growth you want in your relationship from your own ability to communicate and connect with HIM?
Or are you waiting for him to figure out how to reconnect with you, so he'll pull you and your relationship out of the "funk" that it's fallen into?
Do you feel STUCK as you're constantly trying to reconnect, but the more you seem to try and talk, the more he seems to pull away?The more he feels you are "Nagging" him?
If you don't have this skill we've been talking about, then I think you're starting to see that you'll constantly be at the mercy of whether or not a guy chooses to feel like opening up to you or not. And as you might already know, it's in a man's nature to want to "shut off" a lot of times - even when things matter most in your relationship and you need to talk. In fact, a man can go for days, weeks, months, even years without feeling the need or desire to really open up and share what's going on inside.So... knowing all this now, I would like to ask you something important:
What are you going to do about figuring out how to easily connect and stay connected to the man you love going forward in the future?
Is your strategy for trying to reconnect or communicate with him in the future when he is NOT communicating with you going to be...........
Fighting against his lack of connection and emotional distance by telling him he's wrong and that he's ruining your relationship?
BAD MOVE!
He will just withdraw all the more or end up fighting with you.
"Waiting it out" and hoping that he pulls himself out of it for the sake of your relationship?
How do you think either of these are going to work out for you?
And here Ladies let Me give you a "Gold Nugget" of advice from a Man!
Try this kind of "behaviour" on to often with a Man, especially a Man with High self worth and esteem. And you will be gone. Such Men do not need "Moody Women" who try to manipulate them in their life.
Well, maybe you might already know that they are NOT going to work for you from personal experience. That's why I would strongly NOT recommend these approaches in a relationship with a man, even though they happen to be two of the most common "strategies" women take when they want to improve their relationship and the level of communication that's happening. And that is "why" you end up in a fight with your man.
TAKING MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS - AND DRAWING HIM IN
Don't keep feeling scared, anxious, and UNCERTAIN about whether or not a man is going to close off in the future and stay that way until you're left with an empty shell of a relationship. It's time you started creating your own life and relationship that isn't determined by whether or not a man feels like closing off or not.
And that's where I can help.
Your First Step In A New Direction
The first step I want you to take might sound a bit extreme at first. And you might even resist it out of frustration. But your first and most important step is going to be the step that changes everything and frees you up to regain your "center" inside you - and your own power as a woman. The first step I want you to take is to finally take complete and TOTAL PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY for creating the kind of communication you'd like to have in your life, and with a man in your relationship.In other words, I want you to forget about blaming, criticizing, and living in the past, and I want you to start communicating in the way you know that someone who's both loving and trusting would communicate. And that's how I want you to begin talking and connecting with the man in your life. You have the power to create what you want and create CHANGE in the people around you. When you suddenly show up and do this, it will send a clear, subtle, but irrefutable message to the man in your life. He will sense something has changed immediately.
And suddenly all the frustration and blame you've been feeling that still hasn't CHANGED THINGS will fall away and simply disappear.
And a man will instantly notice and wonder what has changed inside you...
And he'll be drawn to you again. He'll be curious. He'll be wanting to know what's going on.
Your Second Step: "The Shift"
The next step is to make sure that you know what to do with this new "space" and environment for connection you've created between you and a man. And this is where it becomes absolutely critical that you have your act together when it comes to being able to COMMUNICATE in a way that builds connection and understanding.
There ?s something important you need to understand...Your relationship, and the communication you and a man share in a relationship, are often a series of patterns.
He acts distant. You feel unheard or unappreciated.?
He withdraws more. You try and talk him out of it or get him to open up. He resists and pulls away.?
YOUR pattern might be somewhat different, but the truth is that you have patterns of your own with a man (In psychological terms they are called "Sub-concious drivers"). When you take the first step and become responsible for creating the kind of connection and communication you want, you actually get to BREAK your Pattern.
I call this "the shift", because you can actually FEEL that something is different inside in the way you and your man are around each other.
My DYNAMIC LIFE DEVELOPMENT System will quickly teach you how to share your thoughts and emotions in a way that guarantees a man will not only listen, respect your feelings, and respond in a positive way when you do make the first critical step and take responsibility for the communication you have in your relationship...But it will also show you EXACTLY how to approach each conversation, what to say, the right and wrong way to say it, and help you avoid all the common mistakes that send men packing.And not just with men either!
The best part is that even though it sounds like a whole lot of "work", it's really simple to get once you spend the time to start learning and working with the material and Me.
I can help you understand what is really happening "beneath the surface" when you are talking with a man, and it will take you inside his mind so you know where he is coming from and how to use it to create a stronger bond with him. It will not only help you get a clear handle on why a man isn't hearing you, but also show you how to easily get across what you're thinking and feeling in a way that a man is sure to HEAR and UNDERSTAND. More importantly, you'll learn how to respond to in an open and supportive way.
The difference is often a tiny "shift", or a word here or there - but these can make ALL THE DIFFERENCE.
Here is something I want you to think about...
Your relationship is NOT set in stone. In fact, it ?s actually made up of a huge collection of tiny moments, of feelings, of connections. Which means... you have the power to dramatically change the quality of your relationship and what you experience in it by finally CHOOSING and learning how to CREATE the moments you want to share.
But you've got to learn how to get started. Once you know how it works, it ?s easy.
If you really want to create a successful relationship.........
ISN'T IT TIME YOU TOOK CONTROL OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS RATHER THAN THE OTHER WAY AROUND?
Now is your chance to change your life and the kind of communication and connection you share with a man, FOREVER.
What's that worth to you?
It's probably pretty priceless.
So don't keep yourself from the love, happiness, and security you could have when it's right in front of you. The sooner you learn what it takes to communicate with a man and get the RESPONSE that you want (him being open, supportive, loving, understanding)...Then the sooner you'll be able to start enjoying a relationship you can have real CONFIDENCE and SECURITY in.After all, wouldn't it be better to be telling your girlfriends about how wonderful your man is... instead of brooding over why he isn't and how it's holding you back in love?
Thank you for reading this article and joining me. I'll talk to you again soon and enjoy Love and Life!
Your Friend,
AF
Do You AGREE or DISAGREE
WANT YOUR MAN TO BE MORE ROMANTIC??
What you probably don't realize is that all men are romantic. What they lack is guidance, coaching and proper feedback. Once you have the skills, it is so simple to get men to show their romantic nature.
However, a woman can easily suck the romantic life out of any man without even knowing what is going on. I see it happen ALL THE TIME. If your man isn't as romantic as you want him to be, there is most likely something that you are doing (or not doing) that can be changed.
A woman can VERY EASILY bring out the inner romantic in her man with the right techniques. that I teach YOU in My DYNAMIC LIFE DEVELOPMENT System!Please feel free to forward these articles to a friend - and let them know they can get in touch with Me. To start receiving their own articles by subscribing to this blog. I am sure They will Appreciate Your Consideration of them. All I ask from you in return is that you give a backlink to my website. Thank you. ??
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